Is there any hope or is the damage done

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Can you set up a parenting plan with him as to when he sees her or spends time with her?

Can you have a neutral place to drop her off?

Or, can you drop her off and pick her up from his parents place? That way you don't have to see him. a 180 (I suspect) would be to avoid seeing him. He may be relieved to start with (or suspicious that you don't want to see him) - just tell him it's easier this way and don't elaborate. After a while you may be able to detach because you haven't seen him or been dealt with 'drama' from him.

The clearer things are wrt spending time with your D, the easier it will be to detach, GAL and heal yourself. Look after yourself. When he has time with D, parenting is his responsibility. You wont' be able to control what he does during that time so unless your D is in physical danger, you're going to have to just suck it up and let him be a father in his own way.

I too, have a 7 year old daughter.

Have been separated for over two years. I am currently buying him out of the house. He doesn't seem to want to divorce, but yet he still wants his separate life.