I feel for you DC. After hearing my W say she is scared about dating again and divorcing, she doesn't have enough respect for me anymore to consider me a viable option in her life any further.
I cried last night - the first time in almost a month.
We hold out hope and work hard on 180s, PMA, (not sure what the "as if" is so I'm probably not doing that), GALing, et cetera, but the setbacks are brutal -- especially because they always seem definitive.