One of the nosy neighbor's kids and OM's nephew wanted to play with S7/S8. Told them not today, but I hate that the nature of the illicit relationship has broken down the feelings around the neighborhood and escalated the drama. I'm just not comfortable having my kids play over there at this point - but they don't understand why they can't see their friends right now.
Reading on a BPD support forum and lots of familiar settings. I don't believe I've seen more than a couple (out of hundreds) of successful reconciliations. Although attempted reconciliation by BP's are apparently quite common... no matter how badly they treat you they want to come back like nothing happened.
Makes me think it is stupid to hold out hope when the percentage she'll eventually want to come back is very high - but the percentage she'll cheat again is very high as well. From most of what I've read, it takes 5+ years of consistent therapy for a BP to show consistent change, and even then the BP has to want to change.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
