I find that Dick intentionally set S up for his warrant... the speeding ticket S received while living with his Father in California. Oh ya, Dick knew S was coming back to KS, and while S in KS, but before the custody papers were through the KS court... Dick made an appearance in the court in Cali, stated S was on a court order visitation, which he was given a continuance for when Dick said S was going to return.
Now, S had accomplished ALL of the court items which the Judge gave him to "work off" his fines, wrote the essay, went to the driving school prior to leaving Cali, and Dick had all his paperwork at the time of the appearance.
Now, please forgive me, for I've been told by the court system here, that I'm a miserable parent, but of course the court has only listened to Dick and his attorney.... anyway, had I been in Dick's shoes, knowing S wanted to go back to KS, I would have presented this information to the court, along with all that he had accomplished, in order to prevent any further legal harm.
Of course, Dick had always said S's essay was not good enough, so I can understand why he wouldn't present it..... however, I felt if the kid wrote it, present it, as it would be up to the Judge to determine if it was good enough, or not, and let the child know.
Am I wrong? I realize I do try to over protect my children, probably do too much for them, but I feel they've been surviving in rough waters for so long, that a helping hand here and there isn't always a bad thing.... again, I could be wrong here too.
I feel Dick was just trying to load his hand, if you will, thinking the Judge here would return S to California to finish up the ticket ordeal.... however, S completed everything as ordered, except for an appearance that he nor I knew about. Yes, all the paperwork from the courts went to Dick.... Because S didn't appear, there is a warrant out for him, along with another $150 fine.
I feel if Dick would or could appear for a continuance, he could definitely appear to provide the work S had done with the explanation of why S wasn't there in person.
The other weird thing that happened today, I was asked if I was a (last name) that a person once knew... I responded "Naw, it's my children's last name. However, if you (the person) knew the family that was once on this street, then moved to that street, then it would be my children's family."
The person said "Yes, I was once a neighbor of the family." I told him that it's been a while since I've heard from most of the family, but gave him a general breakdown of where the family was as of 2006. He was surprised to hear Dick's sister passed, but also began to talk about the family as they grew up. Talked about how Dick's father was very hard on the family, especially the boys, and of course Dick's Mother he was the hardest on. I thought... geez, guess the apple didn't fall far from the tree.
Although interesting to hear, it also confirmed many of the thoughts I have had for a long time. But why now? Why am I given this information now? Sure, it softened my heart with more understanding, however, it doesn't change the battle I have going on in the courts. Knowing what I know won't further help me in our plight.... a better understanding of what Dick went through and why he is who he is, isn't going to help me give back the future my children had dreamed of... Oh well, the answers will come in their own time....
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you.........
