I know that I will get X amount for child support. If we did not have this debt I would get X amount indefinate spousal support. BUT we have this debt so my L thinks H will get the bulk of the debt instead of having to pay me spousal support. Maybe I am not thinking right, but it seems like I should hold out for that. ACK?!?!?!?! Who knows
I will have my military benefits in June, so I think that battle is won.
It's possible he may have an awakening... who knows. I guess it is possible that any one can have an awakening. Not sure I will still be able to care at that point.
Me 54 DS19 and DS17 Married 06/1989 Divorced 01/2011
Not sure I will still be able to care at that point.
Good point, NNP! After looking back at my life I probably should have divorced my exH 20 years ago. It IS sad that it took US so long to value ourselves!!!!! We have the rest of our lives, though, to do better!
how much would the spousal benefits be and for how long?
unless it is really a huge amount, i'd let him take the debt and get out. the extra ties are soooooooooo not worth it. I had alimony for a couple of years and it really is not pleasant to have that sort of tie to an ex-spouse.
I am wondering if your H would actually accept all the debt in an divorce agreeement or would it be shared marital debt??? Not clear on how that works. Maybe it depends on his level of guilt OR your proof that it is HIS debt.
It IS sad that it took US so long to value ourselves!!!!! We have the rest of our lives, though, to do better! 