Its interesting to see how after the affair, or whatever, you start to see the old person, the one you knew, peeking out again.

When I first made the decision to stand for my M, I remember thinking that I dont want transparency, you either trust or you dont. The idea of going through his bills, etc. made me sick. Now, Im not sure that I could do it without at least permission to check, if I felt like I really needed it. I also have thought about a joint Myspace page, or Facebook, we are military, so the network is really important to keep in touch with people. I still dont like the idea of needing transparency, but I also dont like the idea of him having sex with a 22 year old bar fly either!

I think that it can be useful, but I also agree that it can be a dangerous thing. Trust but verify, right?

I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...