No doubt you're feeling pretty whacked out by the challenges your new job has brought and the amount of fantastic input you're getting here...
It takes time and serious introspection to make headway in this "journey"...don't lose heart...there are posters on this board who,like you, post about every twist and turn in their sitch and every thought that runs through their minds - others, like me, cos thats in my /their nature - sanitise things a little...in all likelihood, neither is right.
Your preparedness to bare all has yielded far more input onto your thread than mine- I wanted input but initially I wasn't prepared to bare all - so in that respect you're in a better position than I was by miles at this stage in the game.
Kev - I'm speculating now...but guessing that you feel that your already fragile ego has taken a real good bashing of late - but please understand that every poster to you has the utmost respect for you for keeping coming back here and laying out your thought processes / fears / hurts / hopes - that's not an easy thing to do - and every poster here will appreciate and understand your commitment to re-forging a relationship with your W and to rebuilding your family...
And I also want you to know that every poster here will appreciate that the stuff that's fed back to you and advised here is "easier said than done".
But this is what it is...it is easier said than done...this stuff "is" hard...introspection "is" hard...none of this is easy and there are no magic bullets...but there are principles / tenets if you like that folks here have found that work for them in their situations...folks that have, in their time also found themselves floundering and desperate...
The presumption is, that by being here, you want to learn from those people...Kev you are getting some fantastic input...the only thing that is holding you back now is the "Old Kev".
Letting the Old Kev go doesn't mean that you lose your identity - that will always be there - that's your "Kev" -the "Old Kev" is how you used to relate to the world, the "New Kev" is how you "want" to relate to the world.
Kev - what does the "New Kev" look like? Once you have that sorted out, then you're back on the road!
And I think (?) -this is mirroring much of what 25, CG and others have said already...
