Separated but keeping the Faith

[K4D]

In your very first post, you said you were seeing a lady but that you ended it. Did she ask about that during the 2 hour talk?

You said she probably had an affair or 2 and you have some proof. Did she bring any of that up from her own self?

I would just say like you are, let the past wash itself away. I told my W between her affairs and my past mistakes, I consider the 2 a wash and lets start new. Of course that didn't work, but the point is, I agree with what you are saying. Forget the past.
Start moving forward. I don't know why spouses can't say ok, the past is the past. How do we fix today and going forward?

You are saying that you can see she is hurting. You also are not letting her come over to spend time with yall on your time probably because she is going through with this D and she needs a taste of her medicine is my guess on that one?

Thats a fine line decision. I wouldn't quite be sure where to draw that line, but I guess you have to draw it somewhere. Is it reverse psychology you are using or you just decided that if she wants to be this way you can be to?

I'm not sure that I would block her though from being part of yall. If she wants to be part of yall, its extra time for you to put your best foot forward in front of her.

On the other hand, Stuck808 would probably tell you to block her and stand up for your rights for your time with the kids and that she would respect you more.

And maybe she is because you got that 2 hour phone call in from her. hmm...

I'm just trying to figure out if it is pissing her off and making her push forward with the D or if it is making her step back and think twice about the D and if she really wants this.

What options do you have for her after you see a L?

Kevin