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Yeah... I sound like a bit of a whiner... Like breaking my fingernail in a room full of pro football players, but thanks for listening and providing your input. I've only been married 7 months, but all of my relationships including my first marriage were marred with the same crap going on here... Looking back, I can see where I felt the same and made the same mistakes in those relationships. The difference is that now, I am committed and trying to do something about them... but it's about as difficult as ever and I'm a hard-headed sort...