Sorry you are in your sitch, but you found a good support site. From my POV, I see a lot of resentment. FORGIVENESS is very important. Dropping the blame and look inward is key to change....
I recommend focusing energy on "FIXING" you. You have 100% control of your thoughts,words and actions. You can not control spouse, but your actions can influence hers.......
You have a lot of work to do.....
Take a look at the books I have listed. NUTS is a good read as well as she comes first.......
Good luck
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
