Thanks for the advice. I have been totally avoiding R talk, as I know from prior mistakes that nothing good comes from bringing it up right now. During the lunch I referred to, it was my W that initiated the R talk, and I said almost nothing. We were just chatting about the kids, when the look on the her face totally changed, and I realized her wall was down. That's when she talked briefly about our R. I just let her speak, and acted kind. When she was done I told her I could see she was changing, and that I liked what I was seeing. Then I made a little joke to lighten the mood, which she seemed to appreciate greatly.
Sara-
I have looked into Retrouvaille extensively, and I agree it might be something my wife and I could really benefit from, but my gut tells me now's not the time. This whole thing needs to play out a while longer, and she needs to heal some more, as well as come to some conclusion regarding the OM, or not I guess. I think one of the requirements of Retrouvaille is that no other parties are involved, and that's definitely not the case yet for my W, unfortunately.
