I think he's referring to the "fake it till you make it" idea.
CIPA,
Don't be discouraged. It's still very early in your sitch. Just take it a day at a time. Put it in your mind that you WANT to learn to love your W again. That's what I did after she left and I was pissed off and hated her guts.
Did you download the podcast I sent over earlier? It helped me going and when I started getting that angry feeling, I would play it and let it calm me down.
Hang in there buddy. At least you see your kids today!
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.