It's all ablazin'....

[S.T. _I Made It!]

hey B. I'm so sorry. I agree with So2 though about trying to change the sleeping arrangements.

exh is just being who he is so that he feels better. he is being mean to you because his life sucks. (and I really believe that).

everytime he acts like that, why don't you do something crazy and start laughing. that will probably make him more mad, but maybe he'll quit. or maybe have some kind of sign with a picture of some poop and hold it up in front of him when he acts yucky. although that will only work if your right by him. Or maybe when he starts talking bad on the phone, use a blow horn in the phone and say, there's a bad connection.

IDK, just do anything! this is going to go on and on and on, unless for some reason his life becomes great, and you know what? I believe it never will, unless he finds God or has a life threatening wreck or illness. of course miracles can happen, but you have done way beyond what most would do, and I really commend you for that. You should hold your head up high and be proud of who you are.

Although K will see how daddy treats mommy, she can ALSO see how mommy reacts. If you react in self pity, and in defensiveness, or depression, then K will learn something that is not healthy, but if she sees you standing up for yourself (not meaning fighting with him, but instead distance yourself and walk away from him, but also set boundaries and consequences and stick with them) and if you show her by surrounding her with men who DO treat you with respect, like your father, then she will learn well. His messups don't have to be hers. There are plenty of people who didn't become alcholics even though their dad or mom was, or smokers, or abusers, or whatever. (no offense to you smokers...haha, but it's bad for you so quit!! lol)

You will be a great guide for your daughter and pray over her daily!