WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 7

[confusedinpa]

The one thing that worked in another sitiuation like yours, is another person or the just the thought of it. As soon as he dated she came back quicker that I can type this.

I not saying to do that but while she has the kids it would not hurt to put yourself out there.... test the water a little see what happens...make her worry a little. Just go to a few clubs. you have not tried that yet ...hey nothing else worked maybe making her jelous will....

I must say it does not work for me, my wife just gets mad and withdrawals more ...but thats my sitch everyone is differant.

I had gone out a couple of times before she moved out. It was part of my DB'ing where I just went out with some of the guys. When I got home, she did grill me and acted jealous. About a few weeks ago, she started saying how as soon as she moves out, she thinks that I will just get mad and find someone else to move on. I had asked her if that was what she had wanted and she just broke down crying saying that she didn't know what she wanted. All she knew was that she needed time/space to heal.

A few of my friends and my therapist thinks that another thing could be is that's what she was planning on doing.

I just don't know. I know I need to stick with my plan to go Dark/DIM for the first 3-4 weeks. She left on Sat, so it's now day 6. Although I did see her on Sun when she picked up the kids, then I saw her on Mon when she picked me up to go to the required Children of Divorce seminar and we had lunch together and we text/emailed on Weds and we she called me on Thurs. No contact today. So maybe this is really Day 1 of the Dark/DIM. Hmmmmm.....

So tough.....