You truly are handling situation so well. I'm glad my messages help, but I think you have a lot of strength, character, and are very level-headed so you will be fine no matter what. You are being a great dad, a super good role model, getting out and being a little social, attending support groups, and connecting with family. I think you are doing great things for yourself and you have a great attitude.
You know I'm joking about bringing the women to the game, but I will say sometimes when a W or H realizes their S is attractive, or interesting, to others... or just sees them having a great time with others (and this doesn't mean dating or having a relationship beyond friendship!), it can cause them to think about things a little differently.
However, I still would LOVE for your W to see you somewhere with a slew of beautiful women. Just the expression on her face.
Did you look up the carrot cake yet??? Okay, here's the recipe. Now everyone here reading this can add baking to their 180 or GAL and make some amazing carrot cake:
Cream Cheese Frosting Confectioners' sugar, for dusting top
Instructions 1. Preheat oven to 350F. Grease two 9-inch springform pans. 2. Sift flour, sugar, salt, baking soda and cinnamon into a bowl. Add oil, eggs and vanilla. Beat well. Fold in walnuts, coconut, carrots and pineapple. 3. Divide batter between prepared pans and smooth tops with a rubber spatula. Set on the middle rack of the oven and bake until edges have pulled away from sides and a cake tester inserted in center comes out clean, about 50 minutes. 4. Cool 15 minutes, then remove sides of pans and place layers still on pan bottoms on cake racks to cool completely, 3 hours. 5. Gently remove layers from pan bottoms and use Cream Cheese Frosting to fill cake and frost the sides. Dust top of cake with confectioners' sugar. Serves 10 to 12.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
