Just happened to stumble onto your thread. Like you, I am currently in an unofficial "in-house" separation with W and it is very difficult on so many levels. W is really pushing to sell our house so that we would be forced to move but the market is just not that favorable right now and we would likely have to take a huge hit on our 401k's to clear out all of our joint debt.
I found what is best for me is to treasure as much time with my kids as I can and to have an active life outside of work and home. Feel free to stumble over to Hopefulness sometime if you wish...
If I didn't know better, I would swear DQ is some sort of undercover DB spy for MWD. She is very much spot on with her advice...
Me 52, STBEX 52 D 17, S 12 M 20 years Em Sep since 2002, Phys Sep Sept 2009