Blue Rain, sometimes I feel that he is luring me to have more fun (he said I didn't have enough fun in the marriage which is true). It is the same dynamic as when we were together. He's goofing off and doing whatever he wants and I'm the voice of reason. What if I gave in and just lightened up? But then, I feel wary because he is really disrespecting me and our family...
I am really disciplined about not snooping; I could access his email any time and I don't. Actually, a while back he went into my email because he couldn't stand not knowing what I was up to. I actually disabled my facebook because I didn't want to be tempted to look.
I hear most of what he's up to from him directly (once in a while a friend or the kids will tell me). He tells me nearly everything and he is having some successes that I was a part of, hard to feel isolated when I want to share it with him. If I go dark, is it something I just do? Or do I tell him anything? He felt so rejected and devalued in our marriage, it is hard to push him away. I'm sure this is common. Thanks for the help!
