HJR...have you done any reading about mid-life crisis? From the way you described that it was like a switch turned on, around the time you found the sex sites, etc and I think you said there was an illness or a death in the family....plus a lot of the things you are saying sound like MLC script. Have you read any of that info? It may help you to understand that many people go through this, and that it does end at some point...

DQ