People love to cry with sad songs. I listen to a radio show called This American Life, they did a show a while ago on break-ups, it was kinda hard to listen to at times. I used to listen to that Lifehouse song, from where you are, oh and Breathing.

I think that Portland Dad gave some great advice, and I really do wonder sometimes how fabulous their shiny new life really is. Maybe hes just trying to convince himself that hes doing the "right" thing here. Dont listen to it. Especially if you think hes only being provocative. Have you been over to the affairs board? Look around on there, you can find some great advice over there.

A&K, I agree with DL, I think that you need to ramp up your GALing and I think that you need to go dark. I think that the detaching will help you out a lot. You can read about it on here, stick by it! If you need to talk about the kids, or something important then of course, but otherwise, you stop talking to him. Notice how the things you have done are good for YOU! the losing weight made you healthier, faster, more flexible. Who knows, maybe at the end of this you wont want him back... thats the point. To help you become a more well rounded, healed person, prepared for your H's return, but in a much better place to recover if that doesnt happen.

I remember looking on my H's facebook and myspace everyday, looking for changes or new postings by the OW, or her creepy little 19 year old friends. My heart would POUND as the page was loading, and I would spend hours recovering from whatever I found.

I made a decision to let the things that werent doing me good go. Real fundamental good, helping my attitude, self-esteem, bank account, health, everything else would go. I stopped checking his pages, texting, trying to trick him into hanging out. And that was probably the #1 thing I did for myself. It felt great to not HAVE to check his pages.

I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...