Sorry that I can't give much advice. I relate to the cake eating thing. My H seems to have all of the control and wants to be around me (asked me to do shots of tequila on a whim with him last night, which i declined). He picks my brain and wants to talk about our relationship and just when I think it is moving in a direction, he reaffirms how "done" he is. Aaargh. I, like you need more guidance on how to navigate the friendship at this stage, and if it is better or worse for the kids for us to spend time together.
