Secondly, Whether or not it is an MLC, doesn't let you or anyone else off the hook for looking in the mirror. YOU still have to do the work to be able to feel comfortable with your own reflection.
A crisis is a crisis FG, It can happen at any point in one's life. My thoughts on that are any confusion over this being done, and similar actions as others have experienced. Most Walk-aways are done....over....and out. There is NO confusing actions and the truth is more previlant.
I have lived the last 19 months with a live in, and from my experience, strength and patience is a must. As well as a Deaf ear and one blind eye. You will be witness to things that will astonish you that the person you love with all of your heart could possibly do those things. But then you will realize that that person is really out to lunch at the moment, and it is NOT a conscious effort on their behalf.
It will make detaching quite a bit harder, and when you do, you will still "notice" things while you are not necessarily dwelling on them. Can you survive this ?
The answer is yes......YOU can survive this, and maybe, just maybe with a little luck, long looks into the mirror, and grace from God......your marriage may as well.
There are no guaruntees in this, only that YOU will come out of this stronger, wiser, and better adjusted for your next relationship. And that MAY just be with your husband.
Don't be afraid to post to others and build a reltionship with others in a similar situation as yours. You can also go through the MLC archives at the bottom of the page. Dig up some of J3B, and BND, AmyC......any of those....Good reading too.....
