I thought maybe it was something like that, Gypsy.
It's not so much that you fear some man being nice to you, it's that you fear being hurt again should you come to rely on and trust that kindness. I can sympathize with and understand that. I think to one degree or another all LBS's face that. Once burned, twice shy, as they say.
And I have continually observed, with a great deal of helpless sympathetic pain, that so many of you women suffer almost-crippling bouts of insecurity, such that it impacts everything in your lives. Perhaps we males are just better at hiding our weaknesses (or not!), but it saddens me deeply to continually see how both the actions and reactions of so many women are driven by such insecurities -- especially the loved ones in my life.
I just hope and pray for you and others that through time and God's graces you will overcome these hampering issues. I am confident that some day you will get to that point when a man can show you the kindness you deserve and you will both enjoy, appreciate and accept it gladly, without reservations.
