Husband of WAW

[antlers]

Let me share something with you from City Girl...'if you're tired of the way your WAS is ignoring you then let ot go and stop being tired of it. Most spouses that walk away from a marriage tend to treat the spouse they left behind like crap. They are rude, selfish, demanding and cold. They think the sun and moon amd stars revolve around them and each whim or desire they have. Its all part of the anatomy of a walk away spouse. They treat you like garbage because you allow them to.'

And this from Coach..."you can't control your wife's thoughts, feelings, or actions so don't even try. You are in complete control of your thoughts (PMA), feelings (act as if), and actions (180's, goals, LLs). Understand this might not turn out the way you want no matter how hard and well you DB. So this crisis you are facing is all about how you handle it for yourself.
Don't try to fix or show your wife what she could be doing different. You be the change for the better because it is good for you. DB'n works because it is you taking responsibility for your own happiness (loving yourself). It is honorable and wise to fight for your marriage yet you don't control the outcome. Yet you have to commit to the principles regardless so that you can cope, thrive, grow, and hopefully get your wife to notice the great man you are. You can handle it".