Yes. I live with a PA spouse...who's also an alcoholic. Big fun.
I too go through the questions about what's better regarding staying together or not for the kids. I have a 12 yo and a 9 yo. Lately I've been focusing on me, myself and I, instead of him. Growing. And like you, I also watched dysfunction growing up that has allowed this situation to continue unabated (til now).
Now that you've read Living With The Passive Aggressive Man, try reading up on narcissism. Right now I'm reading Disarming The Narcissist. Got it at the library. Good for reading about what OUR characteristics are that get us and keep us in these relationships. Another great one is The Peter Pan Syndrome, Men Who Never Grew Up. Takes some of the confusion away. And is EXCELLENT in discussing what your own children see and hear and what they take away from it as they come of age. Invaluable.
