Cool Ali very cool!!! And No R talks - I'm very proud of you! It must have felt good to have a low key, low pressure evening out w/him. Keep that friendship going!!
Me39, XH45 Kids 3 dogs, 2 cats Divorced 6/4/09 Tricky thing is not how you live, but how you live with yourself. (POTC)
Thanks everyone, yep it was low key and non-pressured and fun, it was also sort of odd and uncomfortable for me.. I cant relax around him so I am 'on gaurd' in my own way, as he is.
Naej, thanks, I'm a regular page turner now ha what will happen next !?? Jeff.. a hedgehog!? STILL!?? Is he not a fox yet, or maybe a stoat??
His and G's good male friend J is moving away, so he is having a leaving do at bandnight next week, so I reckon I will get invited to that! J's GF may come too, so it will be at least us 3 couples and maybe one or two other workmate MFs that I know. Its amazing the connections I still have with 'his' friends and life and that has made keeping contact with him and DBing so much easier and been instrumental in where we are.
Realistically, the odds are still stacked against us.. I have been here over a year and I'm yet to see a WAS come back (apart from K) although some seem to be keeping their options open (as my ex is).. but he is still keeping his cards close to his chest and I honestly can't tell what he is thinking. If it wasnt for my friend, BMF wife J, telling me he had told her he loved me and wasnt really with Helen anymore, I wouldnt have a clue!
The way he was with me last night, the closeness and the fact he phoned twice this week, makes me wonder if its now over with her.. but G and Cher havent heard anything about her, or asked him.
The way he was with me last night, the closeness and the fact he phoned twice this week, makes me wonder if its now over with her.. but G and Cher havent heard anything about her, or asked him.
Ahhh...patience, but its so hard! I found myself looking him over a few times, checking him out, watching his lips instinctively.. he caught me looking down at him .. and looked down himself and said "what?" kind of absentmindedly, I said, oh nothing.. and the conversation carried on! Oops. I paid him two compliments too.. he was wearing a lovely pair of close fitting seal grey cords, which I later twigged were new as he brushed over where he got them (must of been on a shopping trip to the nearest city with her, a while ago I think).. and I said his hair looked good.. this is something he is shy about, as he went a bit thin on top when his Dad got ill, with the stress. He looked very chuffed when I admired the cut.
He didnt compliment me of course. I was dressed very differently though, more how I used to years ago.. makeup, jewellery, heels, jeans and a floaty silk top.. I dont know if he noticed, he didnt say!
Off to meet just Cher for dinner..she doesnt know anything, so there wont be any gossip, but at least the four of us are firm freinds, so all that makes it easier if he IS thinking of coming back to me.
I like the way you think Michelle! It sounds like a lovely evening. The more positive interactions the better I say. He is obviously thinking about you.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
