Wife has detached from me, tries to offload the children on me as a babysitter while she is out with OP (I think). When I say no I cannot have them, she goes into spoilt brat mode and blames ME for not wanting to see the children. She said "typical, out of sight, out of mind". The times she wants me to have them is when it is not my weekend, I have got to have a life as well, but all she seems to want to do now is party.
The divorce comes through in 7 weeks and any DR'ing, GAL, PMA, 180's has not made a blind bit of difference even though she fights with herself in trying to see she has not seen any consistent changes I have made. It is full steam ahead I'm afraid, but like you and otherr devoted posters I am not going to give up, even after our divorce. I refuse to accept defeat until I feel it is in vain and I am only hurting myself.
If I am being honest I cannot see any way back as I have backslid often and made many mistakes, pushing her further away. I have to be patient and hope the affair ends, though even if it does why would she want to come back to me?
At 41 I think with her new clothes, underwear, started drinking etc she is going through an MLC as I re-read this morning the chapter on MLC in DR which Michele says applies to WAW as well. She is showing these symtoms and her OP is more than likely a younger man than her. I am 48 so an even younger OP than her would make me look ancient.
I pray she will see the light one day and we can work our way back together again.
Bomb dropped: 19/12/08 Me:48 WAW:41 D:10 S:6 Married: 15 years
