For the record. Gorgeous, intelligent, witty, great women of strong character are out there, available, and are mature enough to look at the whole package, investigate why the divorce happened, and see the man for the man in all of his glory, weird flaws and all. I PROMISE.
People who stereotype and think that divorce is a flaw or a negative part of a person are WRONG. This experience is making you become a better man and it's proving that you are absolutely worthy of true love.
And, AHEM, 40 is NOT OLD. It is not too late. It is not the end. Watch what you're implying, buster! Some of us are just BEGINNING our lives and feel great about it. ; )
We see your beautiful "inside" on this board. You are a decent, noble man of strong character, great depth, intelligence, and you are more than able to tap into your passion (but I have a feeling you need to work on doing that outwardly because of the confidence issue that you mention). You have so much to offer. You need to see yourself as whole and strong and able WITHOUT HER. Because it is the truth.
I have a feeling that she says you'll do fine because she knows you ARE great. She just doesn't know how to WORK with you to bring out the passion that she needs. She wants it to be easy. In her quest for pursuing the life she wants *out there*, she is being cruel to you and your daughter. You were right in that she will regret this one day.
CONFIDENCE. Time to work on this first and foremost. I can rub your belly all day, but you need to do the work to help yourself see it. What are you doing to GAL? I think you need a new activity that puts you in a fresh mindset and among fresh, smiling faces. Martial arts? Dance? Cooking classes? What's your poison?
What else. Do you need a makeover? Haircut? Good shoes?
