I've come to really not care what we would live in, as long as we're together and happy. Money and a nice home certainly doesn't mean happiness. (My husband would fall over if he read that!)
You have come a long way MB. You have. I think it's a good thing and I think what I read in your posts is hope and progress. You are truly doing very well and I'm glad you did not give up.
Hope prom goes well ;0)
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
the tennis thing is a great goal, I think you should definitely do that, and it could be something you offer H to join you later too. plus, it will add to the weight loss.
things sound like they are going well.
also on goals, continue to remember what top 5LL your H has and and use those as you are able.
your doing great!!
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
I played D1 tennis, a few years back. LOVED it. H and I argue if we play doubles, as he tends to make comments if I miss something, overhit one, etc... I, of course, do nothing wrong, so I'm not sure WHAT he's talking about! LOL So, I will invite him back, but, maybe as part of a semi-private lesson w/a pro. We used to love doing that! First, I need my game back! (There's nothing better than beating him! Hahahaha)
We are going to dinner w/my parents today for H's birthday. Afterwards, we'll give him his gifts. I'm so excited! I actually booked us all for four days at an "Adventure Camp" in Northern WI... rafting, high ropes course, rock climbing, etc... We'd all LOVE that! In addition, the boys can paint ball, ATV ride, do boy stuff one day, and D17 and I can shop in the resort community, then! This is WAY out of our realm (not the adventure stuff, but a vaca doing something like this) of vacationing. We're usually on a beach or on an ocean!
Glad you keep checking in.
I'm dying to get an update from SMW. Nothing, after her post saying she owes everyone an update. I'm actually a bit concerned... didn't sound like an ideal start to H's return... PRAY PRAY PRAY
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
I am here reading along, but do not ahve it in me to post it all out right now. I am taking the kids to a church picnic this afternoon and some school work to do this evening. I will try to start a new thread in the next couple of days. Suffice to say, the initial homecoming was good and the 2.5 days that DH gave to the kids were nice. It is just a shame that he decided that the OW and her kids deserved his time more than his own kids after 7+ months gone.
Please keep praying for us. My kids are really struggling right now and I am sad and angry for them. I have struggled this week with remembering that this is NOt my DH, NOT the wonderful husband and father I had for 13 years before all of this craziness started. The enemy has ahold of his heart and mind and I am fighting for what is right and true in God's eyes.
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
H just left to work for the week. It's his birthday today. After I dropped the kids at school I stopped and got him a huge cinnamon roll and a chai tea. I put a candle in it, and brought it to his office upon return, and told him Happy Birthday.
He made plans all weekend for "summer" stuff... new tubes for behind the boat, new water shoes, etc... Mentioned a few times about figure out when to go to the Adventure Camp Vadation...
He'll be back Wednesday for S12's track meet, and my BFF is making his favorite dinner (for his b-day). You can tell he's looking forward to it.
He kissed me twice before he left. I would take one day when I didn't tear up or full out cry regarding our lack of intimacy.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
S12 has a Jr. High Track Meet on Saturday. He's a fantastic runner, and doesn't even really have to train (but he does), as he's a club soccer player who plays center mid-field, and runs non-stop 4-5 days per week. S12 could only compete in a few events, since we had to get him to a State Cup soccer game, but in the 800, he ran a 2:38! Sheesh! There were 15 kids in his heat, and he won by a solid 25 seconds! No one else was even around the turn... And, he said he wasn't really running his fastest... But, get this, he missed qualifying for state by ONE SECOND!!!! And, the state qualifying times are for all Jr. High students, so through 8th grade, and S12's a 6th grader! Gosh!
Then he ran the 1600, and ran it in 5:21. The kid can fly.
We were so proud!
At the first lap, he was so far ahead, and one of the Dad's from a competing team (that we know) yelled down to us, "Hey, do you think S12 could pick up the pace a little bit?" Ha!
And, then to have D17 look so awesome for prom, and NOT get into any trouble! Good day! Poor S9, had to put up with all of this all day! I asked him if he enjoyed his day. S9 replied, "Mom, it was a piece of crap!" God! Don't ya love it? Sibling love!
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
I hear good things there. Two kisses? What? On the cheek?
Read back, MB. Things are getting better not worse. They aren't staying the same either.
You're doing very well. I feel your pain and in fact, I'm starting to think that as I build myself into the man I intend to be, that intimacy is one of the things that I require. Not like. Not need. Require. I'm going through as I work on me and figuring out what is most important to me. What I dislike about spouse. What I like about spouse. I'm being honest.
I think you're doing well, but may have to hold on for a while longer.
Keep posting. Keep enjoying life.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
