You guys are great. Thanks for checking in. Don't forget, Gym Woman lived through her XH hvaing an affiar and wanting a divorce. She never saw it coming, and I DO believe she is insecure. I got it. She told me that two other guys she dated were ridiculuously controlling and jealous. I have treated her in a way where I reflected on ALL I did wrong in my marriage, and have treated her with nothing but respect, affection and positive reinforcment, and 99% of the time, she is the same with me. I DO think, and she has admitted that she is insecure because of what has happened in her life.