Oldtimers: IS Mlcer good parent after crises?

[peacetoday]

Hi
I was wondering if the MLCer becomes a good parent again after the crises?

MY XH was a very devoted dad before the A and crises

During our seperation before the D he still seemed connected to kids
During D: I fought him regarding visitation b/c I didnt want OW to be with my kids
They never met her yet

so MY xh Got 1 overnight every 2 weeks in settlement
if he obetains a 3 bedrrom apt.( he lives with OW in 1 bedroom)

Now MY XH visits less..seems very committed to OW
not his kids (She has no kids and he has vasectomy)

So XH found a way to diconnect from all of us
he doesnt answer phone or return calls
not committed here at all

MY question is
Does that change after the crises is over> Does the MLcer really reconnect with their kids????

I dont see any chance of reconciliation as my XH is moving further away and we connect less now?

any thoughts appreciated