Sunshine, do you want to get advice from other D'd posters, or do you just want to stay here because there's more "action"? How does that help you start to heal from your D? You seem to be stuck because you keep asking the same questions and focusing on the minutiae. You need to step back and start making plans for your new life.
I think if you read through some of the threads there you would see how others are dealing with things that are similar to your sitch. You can still post in this forum too, it's just that you may get a different perspective if you don't laser in on MLC to the exclusion of other posters' experiences.
