I appreciate wheat you had to say. I don't comment a lot about my sex life b/c once before I was pulled over into the SSM forum and it just went from bad to worse. I agree with what you said, though. One problem we have and I think a lot of young couples have (except with younger couples they are just spread too thin with too many activites that they are exhausted at the end of the day) with out health problems, we are just spent by the time we get home. So, it is very few times that we even feel well enough to want to "play" around. I know that sounds terrible, but you may discover someday what I mean. That is why I keep hoping that I can find a doctor to help me so that I will/can be the one to put more effort out there b/c I think my H is still subconsciously waiting on me. But, like I said, we are doing okay, so I am not worried.
As for your question about the tickest and the rose for your wife.......I think that would be so romantic. However, the whole thing would rest on her attitude towards you, the marriage and if she is sincere about wanting to work on it. If she has not even as much as told you she is sorry about the EA or that she wants to stay in the M and work on it......then I don't think that is a good sign. Now, if you want to try it as a "test" to see where she is emotionally with you, then you could at least try to show that you are working at a R. She may accept your invitation and yet be stand-offish thinking that you will expect more from her. I'm sorry, but I forgot and don't have time to go back and look right now, but did you say if you two are still ML or not. If you are, then I would try it, but I would not build my hopes up. I just don't think she is over this OM and is feeding you a bunch of bull about being able to work with him......yada, yada, yada.
I wish I could talk longer, but I have to run. Late for work. Let me know what you decide.
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
