Renee, you didn't ask for my opinion on this, but if you don't mind, I will offer my 2 cents. Based on what you have said, I do not think your H is in a MLC. I think your H is a WAS, and I say this based on a couple of things. First, he got a D very quickly, typically a MLCer will stretch things out a bit, to test the waters so to say, in your case this didn't happen, he took off and got the D very quickly, this is a classic sign of a WAS. I realize this is hardly scientific evidence, but spending a great deal of time on the boards you get a feel for things. 2nd, he hasn't even hinted at a possible reconciliation, again its hardly proof, but based on what I have read on here with people, MLCers typically try to string thier spouses along a bit to keep them from moving on, I haven seen this in your case. Renee, I understand about standing, but at the same time in order to keep standing, I think one needs to see some progress in doing so to keep on standing. I haven't really seen where you have made any. My advice to you is to put the past behind you and rebuild your life. If in the future he wants to be a part of it, you can choose to allow him to be part of it.
