Jack, this question is for you. I dont think I have ever heard your opinion on this. From what I have written about my xh and our sitch, do you think he is in MLC? Now, I ask you this because it is important to me. The reason is if its MLC, I WILL treat it like an illness (as per your suggestion and many others as well), WHILE moving on with my life BUT leaving the door open. I know its just YOUR opinion and your opinion only, but with that said, this HARD HEADED LADY knows that you know your stuff. AND please dont say it DOESNT MATTER because from everything I have read IT DOES. MLC is a sickness. I would not be mean to a sick person so why would I be mean to my xh if he is sick. Just your opinion, but I WANT IT PLEASE.