I am now following the 'GAL Advice' section as you probably have noticed. The reason I posted the question about appearing CONFIDENT (on the 'GAL Advice' thread) is a result of finally hearing (or perhaps re-hearing) two of my W's complaints about me - including lost confidence over the last 7 years due to work setbacks, resulting in a gradual loss of competence as a husband. She also stated (to a mutual friend) that she is enjoying being single and doesn't want me back - in part because she thinks it would take too long for me to change.
I can definitely see where the MrNiceGuy aspects of me have led me to fall short on a few key requirements of appearing confident. I've got my work cut out for me in the 180 department. Regardless if she ever sees it, I CERTAINLY will see it in myself and take advantage of the newly developed confidence.
