The adventure continues--part 3

[AFWAW]

Wow, the wife just called to say that she had a good time and before you know it we were in a relationship talk. I told her I needed a decision soon. She said do I have to make it tonight? I said no. She said if I have to make it tonight then the answer is no, I'm not coming back. I said I'm asking for a decision tonight. She said I know it's not fair but I don't want a divorce right now and I don't want to come back right now. She said you have all the reason in the world to go file so why don't you? I said that's not what I want.

It went on and on and on with the same old tired crap about enjoying being alone(which she wasn't) and then she said I don't know that I won't do it again. I said well that won't work. She said I know.

She said, you know maybe we can learn something from this and maybe be friends after this is over. I said if this doesn't work out, I can't be your friend, I'm sorry. She said, why not? I said I love you too much and it would hurt me too much to have to listen to you and see you and not be able to hold you and love you. She said you're going to be cruel if this doesn't work out aren't you. I said I didn't know but I cannot be your friend if you choose this route.

She asked about where our daughter would live. I said she's already told me that she wants to live with me. She said really. I said yes. Then she proceeded to tell me that the reason she left the other day was because of her daughter's reaction. I said she is a teenager and she didn't react the way you wanted so you're not coming home because of that? She said that's why I left.

She said I want you to prepare for the fact that I'm not coming back. I said ok. I said you know you're going to wake up one day and regret this. She said are you threatening me? I said no, but I want you to remember me saying this--you will totally regret this one day and you won't be able to undo it. I have been more than generous. I have given you my heart yet again and you are stomping on it again. She said I know, I just can't decide. I don't want a divorce and I don't want to come home. She said even if I wanted to file right now I can't afford to do so. I said what do you want me to say? She said it's my fault I know--I was stupid enough to take all the bills(yes you were and youre not getting out of them)because I felt guilty(and you should have, you slept with 4 men and had an EA with a married man while I was deployed to Iraq, so if you don't come home I hope you feel guilty every day for the rest of your life) and I have to save up for a divorce if I wanted one(nope I don't feel sorry for her that she has no money).

So, I said, you don't want a divorce but you don't want to come home, would you agree to marriage counseling while seperated? She said, I would but I can't talk in front of you. Ok, would you go to individual counseling at least and then think about MC? She said ok, send me an email with the info and I'll call and set it up. Great I said, that's a good start for now. She said I don't think we should talk to each other for a while. Ok, I said, are you going to call OM? She said no, I don't know.

OK, I think we're pretty much done. I'm still going to wait to see what happens with the promotion and assignment sitch but unless someone sees something I'm missing I think it's pretty much over and done. I can't take anymore. I'm going to make her file though--she deserves to pay for it IMO.

Thoughts????

Time to totally go dark. I'll probably be better off anyway. At this point, I'm mentally exhausted and it's absolutely not fair what she is doing to our family unit. She's selfish and a lier and a heartbreaker and not trustworthy and not rational and I absoulutely don't like her right now. This just totally sucks.