Question kerryK, I agree with all that, but what if the child comes to you with the hurt and feelings of abandonment. I should only validate there pain and acknowledge that the offending parent is offending. Why should I defend something that i feel is abhorrant in order to make the offending partner not appear bad. Surely this sends just as bad a messgae to child.
For example - Dad missed a visitation because his OW needed him to go shopping with her. Child is disappointed and hurt. i want to tell the child yes daddy is as selfish and self absorbed and does not care about how you feel. He is bhving like a teenager and let shope he realises this before it is to late ? Or do I say OH well sometimes daddy gets caught up and forgets time.
