True Love or True Fog? Changing Forums

[Silver Fox]

I see. I just read it - yes, upsetting.

Jack - Pearl and Jon followed me over here from Newcomers. I'm glad they continue to stay in touch. Pretty sure Jon's W is in MLC also and we have both read the MLC articles.

I read and consider and ponder everyone's posts to me. I'm wondering what you think of Ali's advice? She offered up something different compared to what I've been doing lately.

I feel like I'm on a race against time now. H is looking for work in OW's town 200 miles away - he may get a position as soon as next September. He's pushing for the D NOW. That's one of the reasons he broke down last night. He knows he messed up and he's trying to fix it all quickly so he can get his "fresh start".

1. We stayed in contact when he dropped the first bomb. I was emotional but tried to stay friendly - nothing changed
2. Second bomb - my first instinct was to tell him "I will not share you or compete for you. Leave me alone now".
3. I backed off that stance as I began to read about MLC and affairs and found DB. I offered friendship again and we stayed in contact - nothing changed
4. The A continued, he continued to put more energy into it, spending money like crazy. I started feeling like a doormat.
5. He filed, I countered - nothing changed
6. I started NC last fall and complete dark since Jan. - nothing changed (except that I became much stronger and more in control of my emotions)

Now I'm open to contact with him again but as I said, he's trying to wheel and deal a D while I'm hanging on by a thread trying to stall, stall, stall, hoping he'll hit bottom soon (last night was a start I think) or the Catbitch will do herself in or both. Damn.