Miss H, Hi! I'm sorry you are feeling so down right now. And, I am sorry that things did not work out so that you could stay in your house. But, please try to focus on the positives (Trust me, I know that is not always easy). Think of how cool it will be to make a fresh start in a new place...a place that your exH has never lived in and has no "control" over...a place that you can make all your own. That would be so exciting to me!
I know it stings when you think of all the "nice" things he has now; I feel that way sometimes when I have to take my kids to their dad's and I see the nice house he is living in (on a golf course). But, then, I think about how he only gets to see the kids 2 weekends out of the month and a few extra days here and there and I am reminded that I am the one who is blessed. Maybe he does have a nicer house; but, I have the love and respect of my children. And, I have a MUCH closer relationship to them than he will ever have. They know what he has done and the pain that he has caused and they want no part of it. Plus, he and the OW (now his wife) are both having to work at least 3 jobs a piece....life is not always as sweet for them as we think it is.
Miss H, you are in NO way a failure!! You got a bad deal, as did all of us here. Now, you pick yourself up and you start over. Look at how far you have come and how much you have learned! Use this time to develop a stronger relationship with your boys and to continue to grow.
