I think if you married someone, then you have made a commitment and vow to them to stand by them thick and thin. (Not talking abuse here, that should not be tolerated) I do not think that MLC or an affair should be the escape clause in the marriage without giving it your best shot. I don't think MLC should be the the cherry on top of a laundry list of things we don't like about our spouses.
Pretty, I am having a hard time understanding what you wrote...I am sorry.
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H refused to agree that we are married and love each other but he has a girlfriend because that is not what he wants. He wants to be close to me and she will be gone.
I don't know what you mean.
Right now, you want less roller coaster right? Stop with the expectations, either good or bad from him. It is hard, but the less you expect from him the less his actions affect your calm, your center.
You are doing things for yourself right? Enjoying, hopefully a little, some aspects of your life without him.
The OW is showing him her true colors without any help from you...good for you. Don't attack her verbally, don't mention her, you look better later for that. There might come a day when you both, you and him get to make fun of her together. Let me tell you how awesome that is! : )
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