I take back that he is wildly PA. Let's say he is passive. The aggressive part would be that I didn't know anything was wrong before the bomb. He feels like a victim much of the time. Doesn't feel putting effort out is "worth it" in many categories.
Most of the MLC revolves around the career.
Discussing R outside of MC creates distance. There is no "problem oriented" talk outside MC--45 minutes/week.
The public outing created closeness. He has declared those who don't see his situation/feelings as "complicated" are non-friends. So pretty much he has no relationships with anyone!
OW demands is making H realize a "real" relationship with her will "probably" not be what he wants. He still seems to be addicted to the attention "hits."
Normal "as if" we were happily married creates closeness at least in a daily/functional way.
My upgraded look consistently gets his attention.
In MC, H refused to agree that we are married and love each other but he has a girlfriend because that is not what he wants. He wants to be close to me and she will be gone.
