Again thank you so much for your sage advice. It has really helped me in the bad times. Not to be TMI or anything, but have you and your H looked at sex aids (toys, etc.) Don't know if that would've helped you in that dept. if H can't physically perform. There's alot of other ways to be intimate without one on one physical contact. It's just the shared connection and the effort that matters I think.
And I really don't see you as "old". Just mature with alot of sass and sauciness in you. : )
I think my W is trying in out sitch in her own way. And she believes that she can see the OM every day and not affect her personally. That seems to be her attitude.
It's the building back the attraction part that's rough with the OM there and her not saying "okay I'll stay in the M, let's work it out". I always have this paranoid fear that one day I'll come home and she'll just be gone. I'm always waiting for the other shoe to drop because there has been no encouragement from her end.
Here's what I was thinking of doing, feel free to let me know what you think based on what you went through getting over the OM. Mama Mia is opening here next month. I was thinking of buying a couple of tickets and sending them over to her workplace along with a single rose and a card saying "You are cordially invited".
If your H had done something like that in your sitch, would you have gotten upset or would you be polite and go, or would you have thought it was a sweet gesture.
Just trying to get some ideas to re-attract her and outshine the OM as much as possible.
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Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
