HELP! Is ML to try to reconnect a mistake?

[trampledheart]

TH,
After reading about your night, I admit, that what I took away was a planned ambush of your H.

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If you listen to me, I will never tell you not to stand up for yourself. But I sure as sure will tell you when I think you screwed up...and others too.

Thanks Jack, I hope now you understand that it was NOT a planned ambush. My husband knows that I'm not one to do the "mean-girl" thing that many people (women and men), partake in. In that regard, even my husband has said that I'm not like most women he knows (10-25 yrs ago, H held positions where 30+ women reported to him). But that experience had some negatives effects (besides the infidelites) such as assimilating some of their interest and traits such as following celebrity gossip, making alliances with groups/cliques at his work, and general "mean-girl fun". That's why he's always said I was not your typical woman (based on his experience) and that I was more like a man since I didn't do any of those things.

And now, while H works with many younger men/women in their 20's and 30's (average age in high-tech software biz) he's found there are a lot of guys that are like this too. I guess you could say they're the generation that watched "Survivor" and "Apprentice". He enjoys those Reality TV shows where the appeal is to see who can win by making alliances and stabbing others in the back. So, he fits right in with them. He "Twitters" with his new young co-workers/friends as well as celebs, and enjoys the gossip.

So, yes, I would like to get advice from you (and other DBers) so that I can prevent any screw ups. And if I do screw up, feel free to give me 2x4's! Also I want to thank you for your advice to look to the DBer's experience so I can understand where their advice is coming from.

I do hope you understand that I'm not one to try and 'screw' anyone - and definitely NOT EVER for "fun" or "revenge", as it's just not me. (That would be more in-line with my H's way of thinking actually.)

I'm more old-school and John Wayne-like. I value integrity, honesty, justice and fairness. I'm the type of person that if I thought someone wronged me or should be put in their place, I'd call them out on it (which is not always a good thing) - I'm NOT one to talk behind their back or plan a way to get back at them. In other words, if I were a man, I'd "duke it out." LOL!

Trampledheart