be very happy that W is giving you these comments! Most WAS simply dont give any feedback - you have no idea what is working, what is not, what they want. Your W is painting it on the wall in 20 foot letters!
Also, remember, don't just do what she asks - she will not believe that over time either. Make sure you are improving where you think you need to improve, as a man, not just to please W! I am not saying don't do anything to please W - as some on this board will - because I personally believe that a good M requires give and take. Love (real love) is a decision, and an action, not a chemical based emotion. You make the decision to care for your S, and part of that decision is sometimes doing things for them, even if they are not your first instinct!
I would like to suggest a book for you - "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman http://www.fivelovelanguages.com/ This book was recommended to me during my first pass through this forum, and helped me immensely. The basic precept is everyone gives and receives love differently. Each person has their own love language, and to be successful in an R, you have to learn how to speak the other persons language.
I will give you an example. One of my W's LLs is "gifts" - not big lavish expensive things, but tokens - love notes, cards, flowers, etc. This dosnt come native to me, as for me my instinct says I show love by taking care of my family financially and physically. Instinctively the fact that I come home every night and provide for my family day after day is how I show love. But one does not translate to the other, and while my W can look at that logically and understands, internally she does not "feel loved" because I am not speaking her language. So as part of my Love for her (love is a decision) I make an effort to think of little things I can do for her from time to time. Just writing a little love note now and then can make a world of difference in our R.
So, while you should be mostly focused on improving you, dont be afraid of making some changes for her - as long as you are committed to continuing whatever change it is, because once you commit to it, and then fail to continue to follow through, you will be back here for sure!
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