Sometimes it's not what our spouses do, like the affairs that are almost part of every situation on these boards. IMO, the biggest damage is done from what they choose NOT to do in the context of the marriage once all is out and action must be taken to ever have a chance to make it. It all comes down to commitment. And no one can base a life on just hopes and wishful thinking when reality is too clear to ignore.
We should all try to lead our children by our actions and example and trust that what we have taught them, will allow them to make the right choices when their turn comes. And during the break up of a marriage we are watched even more closely. Kids -young adults even more- IMHO are strict but fair judges. No need to underestimate our kids and their ability to know right from wrong if we have done a good job raising them. Leaving a marriage could give the wrong example, staying in a "empty" (didnt know what better word to use) marriage, will definitely give the wrong message. Stay strong Puppy. K
