lewis-- Can you go to the doc and talk about your depression, I know many people post about needing to get on some depression meds during this time....and they said they helped so much
you are having a hard time, remember one day at a time, one hour at a time, try to think of anything but your H and focus on you and your boys....trust that God has good thinkgs planned for your life and your life is not about your H, you did not choose this, but it is what it is until its something different. Your H is in the new part of a new relationship...he is not in relaity...the fantasy girl is so much different than the reality girl...hang tight do the hard work