Great! That's the plan...ignore it. It wasn't intentional so who cares?
OK I do have one other question. In regards to the fact that it is Sydney's 3rd birthday next week.
For her birthday last year, I had a party with my mom's side of the family, and then H had a party with my in-laws. I went to that party too, but he bought the decorations, etc etc. This was when his A was in full force and he wanted to show me he could do this stuff without my help...
Once he came back in July, we have done all of that stuff together. Birthday presents for Nathan, Christmas for both kids, etc etc. Even after he moved out. He even got his dad a birthday card 2 weeks ago(FIL came over for dinner) and signed it from both of us, without mentioning it to me. (I saw the card after his dad opened it)
This year I was holding to his "I want us to work it out, I am hoping/praying that the work on the house will be work we enjoy together" comments when I started the planning.
My mom is having her own party for Sydney b/c she wants to invite her 7 brothers/sisters and their kids and grandkids. I said I didn't want to host a party for 40 for a 3 yr old but she could if she wanted to. (Nathan quit having those parties last year b/c he said they were loud and crowded and he just wanted his cousins (my sister's kids) to come over)
Then there will be a party at my house for Dan's side of the family. There will be about 15 of us total, just us, Dan's 2 sisters and their families, and MIL/FIL. I did it at my house b/c my mom is having the giant party and this will be 'my' party. Sounds weird I know...but I am hosting, bought the decorations, got the food, etc etc
Anyway since we talked last week and I have realized he just isn't anywhere near coming home, I have accepted that I am moving forward on my own. I have stopped all the cheeseless tunnels, moved his clothes out of our room, continued separating finances, etc etc. And I haven't called him since he left for his trip on Sunday.
OK so long story, but I wanted to give context. The question is, should I just buy my own present for Sydney or ask if he wants to get a joint gift? I would prefer to just buy my own, but I don't want him to think I am being underhanded if I don't tell him that I am...we have done it all jointly thus far and I suppose even divorced couples could get gifts together if they want to. But I am feeling the urge to just go get her what I want to get her. Does it matter?
