when I moved out, it was the first time I did something since this all started in November that re-established my backbone. I believe it turned my H on. Actually I know it did. I can pinpoint that as a pivotal point in this crazy roller coaster ride.
So here's what I'm saying: You be the you that you are and want to be. She NEVER gets to tell you who you are, what you are. Just like you can't do that to her. So the next time she says "Why are you dancing around?" Stop, walk very close to her so she can see your eyes and say "This is who I am. This is who I've always been. Sometime in our relationship, I surpressed this part of me. Now, I'm letting it out. I like it. It is me."
I've learned in all of this, when I stand my ground and set boundaries with my H, it goes well. He responds well and with respect for me.
But really in terms of being playful, I was thinking more along the lines of a quick little elbow squeeze or a little love tap on the nose or a wink. Not necessarily full body contact.
