So I did a dumb-a$$ thing this afternoon, and I feel like an idiot.
I ran home at lunch to pay some bills that were due, incl. the bill for our tax preparation. I have been meaning to add up our total refund, then take off the $ we owed in Iowa (we had returns for FOUR states! ), and the money we owed for tax prep, to see what our net refund was going to be.
So anyway I decided to fire off a quick e-mail to H letting him know what the net refund was and that I would be transferring my half to my checking account once it posted in our joint account. Currently, I have my own account with all of my money in it, which I took out of the joint account. He opened his own account but has very little in it, most of his money is still in the joint account. Our tax return was e-filed to be posted into the joint account. So anyway that is why I wanted to let him know, so he wouldn't wonder where the money went when he checked the joint account....
So as I was saying, I was jotting off a quick e-mail "Here is our total refund, less expenses, it comes to $xxxx, I will be putting $yyyy into my account once it posts, fyi".
It was a strictly business email, I didn't even write "hope your trip is productive" or any of the stuff I normally write. I am trying not to go there anymore...
Well from home I cannot access my "contacts" on my work email. So to send the message from my work account, I had to reply to an old message. I recently cleaned up my work mailbox as they told us the system was full to the point of crashing. I found one random message w/H's email address on it in my "sent" folder and hit reply all, then just typed my message in the reply section so I wouldn't have to type out his work email (long address, lazy me). I figured that would be good anyway b/c reply all meant it went to him and to me, so I would have a copy of what I told him re. the tax $$.
Well I got back to work, the message was in my inbox. I skimmed it to make sure it sounded right, then noticed that (of course) the message I had hit 'reply' to was attached at the bottom of the email.
It was a "pursue-type" email from me back the first week of Feb! Talking about how I was 1000% sure I wanted us to be 'us' again, could he just take the leap and try instead of being so afraid, how things would be different, etc etc....
I swear I did not intend to rehash that, I only copied the message to use the email address. Typically I would have gone down and deleted the old message before sending it if I was just replying for the sake of using the email address. Don't know why but it never even crossed my mind.
The email title was "Tax Info" and the contents were strictly business, one paragraph stating amounts and how I was putting half in my account. Do I need to mention my "oops" or just ignore it and hope he doesn't scroll down past the new message? I just don't want him thinking it was one of those intentional accidents to make him "think". I am done with that as it was a cheeseless tunnel and I don't want him thinking I am trying that tactic again...
), and the money we owed for tax prep, to see what our net refund was going to be.
