HELP! Is ML to try to reconnect a mistake?

[trampledheart]

I know plenty of divorce people here who still give 'good' DB advice, some of the best are in fact divorced.

I call it like I see it, don't like it, don't listen.

Jack, I'm confused - was this post in reference to what you said regarding Kimmie?

We're all here for one thing...support.

False.

Praise when we do well. Critisism when we do poorly.

Trampled IS your husband in a MLC?

Regardless, I cannot see him ever wanting to be together with all of you again in any setting after that.

A part of me was thinking how damned cool that was, right out of the First Wives Club and stick to the man...honest, that was cool.

The other part is going...well, I'm hoping you wanted to be totally done with him.

My D21, her best friend, and I were talking about the criticism that I got on the boards...and the "First Wives Club" comment. They were surprised how anyone could think that it was a planned event when it all pretty much unfolded totally unplanned.

As cool as you thought it was, there was no "sticking it to the man" thoughts to it at all. To clarify, I was going to meet H to let him know that I had filed and he'd be served. But I was also hoping that since he had been nice most recently (which was a new thing), I wanted to glean out of the meeting whether he may have had a slight softening/change of heart and would be open to working it out. That's why I mentioned to him that I have my 1st appt with a Marriage Counselor coming up, to which he quizzically replied, "Hmmmm". What he meant by that is 'that's weird, we're already done'.

D's girlfriend was going to give him the papers after I prepared him and let him know. In fact, I told her that I didn't want to yet since I hadn't had a chance to talk to him about it. But later, after D's BF said his piece, we all started tearing up, and it seemed ok for him to serve it since he wanted to do it.